Is It Time To Settle?

karlypants wrote:Nat have you had a good look in the mirror naked?

Maybe it's time you fixed the wonky boobs, trimmed your bush and had a perm?

y2johnny wrote:

karlypants wrote:Nat have you had a good look in the mirror naked?

Maybe it's time you fixed the wonky boobs, trimmed your bush and had a perm?

Thought they bush was bald due to burnage (not the village near nordave.)

karlypants wrote:I have a bit of a thing with Nat I will have you know WGO.

luckyPeterpiper wrote:For once I'm going to take Nat completely seriously and reply in kind.

Do NOT settle for Second Best Nat. I did that with my first wife and while she was a nice woman and I did love her it was never as much as she deserved and that led straight to a bitter and ugly divorce with me spending the next nine years bringing up my sons by myself. I don't blame her, she stuck it out when I was working stupid hours and didn't even see my kids awake for three whole months. We stopped talking and I let it happen which is why she eventually went off with other men. I don't condone her having affairs but I do understand why they happened and admit I was partly to blame.

I got lucky, I met Wendy and she is the woman I had been waiting for all my life without knowing it. Most people who settle for second best don't get that chance. I know it can be hard to be single especially when you hit your thirties and everyone you know is paired up and generally has kids but for your own sake don't try and make a go of something that isn't rock solid to begin with. This is one area where "It'll have to do" simply won't work and will only lead to more pain.

Trust me, the wait will be worth it and you'll enjoy it all the more when the right one does come along.

Natasha Whittam wrote:

luckyPeterpiper wrote:For once I'm going to take Nat completely seriously and reply in kind.

Do NOT settle for Second Best Nat. I did that with my first wife and while she was a nice woman and I did love her it was never as much as she deserved and that led straight to a bitter and ugly divorce with me spending the next nine years bringing up my sons by myself. I don't blame her, she stuck it out when I was working stupid hours and didn't even see my kids awake for three whole months. We stopped talking and I let it happen which is why she eventually went off with other men. I don't condone her having affairs but I do understand why they happened and admit I was partly to blame.

I got lucky, I met Wendy and she is the woman I had been waiting for all my life without knowing it. Most people who settle for second best don't get that chance. I know it can be hard to be single especially when you hit your thirties and everyone you know is paired up and generally has kids but for your own sake don't try and make a go of something that isn't rock solid to begin with. This is one area where "It'll have to do" simply won't work and will only lead to more pain.

Trust me, the wait will be worth it and you'll enjoy it all the more when the right one does come along.

At last, a serious answer. Thank you.

I understand what you are saying, but imagine if you'd never met Wendy, would you be happy on your own? How long do you leave it before you have to "settle"?

You say you loved your first wife even if she wasn't the love of your life, surely that is better than no one at all? I don't want to be a 50 year old spinster with only a collection of cats for company.

wanderlust wrote:I think this thread demonstrates that finding the right partner is a tricky business so my advice would be to shag around as much as possible with no expectation of finding love - purely for pleasure.
Statistically, you'd be more likely to find "the one" and if you don't at least you've had a good time and lots of sex.
Worked for me. I've found "the one" three times now so I must be doing something right.

doffcocker wrote:although something tells me you'll be copying and pasting your opening post in ten years time onto whatever platform has taken priority by that point.

Natasha Whittam wrote:

wanderlust wrote:I think this thread demonstrates that finding the right partner is a tricky business so my advice would be to shag around as much as possible with no expectation of finding love - purely for pleasure.
Statistically, you'd be more likely to find "the one" and if you don't at least you've had a good time and lots of sex.
Worked for me. I've found "the one" three times now so I must be doing something right.

I don't shag around.