When did you first realise that something is wrong in your relationship?

I just don't understand people sometimes, take this for instance...

Man abused by girlfriend banned from using toilet
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c8djrl18v81o

"I wasn't allowed to shower or shave, or use the toilet.

I had to hold it in and try to make it down to the local supermarket or a pub or a restaurant."

Shouldn't the penny drop that this isn't normal, in fact this woman is clearly not right in the head?

Obviously you get out of there as fast as you can!

I can only think the bloke has some sort of mental issues too, just to stay with her?

Saying that though his job is 'an NHS manager' so you would have thought he must have had some gumption in him?

I just don't get why people put up with shit - and I mean real mentalist shit like this?

Ok, he's gone all in on the wrong woman, but do something about it, go and sleep at your mates, or find yourself some cheap digs or whatever, until you can sort your life out - but you don't keep going back to her - how does that help you?

He claims Rigby (the woman) repeatedly told him she would tell the police he had assaulted her if he spoke to anyone about the abuse.  Tell her to go right ahead then, if there was no abuse then she can't prove anything can she - just her word against his.

I get that he might be head of heels with her, or he doesn't want people to know he's a wimp, or he believes he can somehow change her, or whatever he was thinking but if you know she won't allow you to have a piss when you are bursting to go, then even the most stupidest person in the world must realise that something isn't right in this relationship and it isn't heading anywhere healthy is it?




PS - probably explains why his local supermarket always had a wet floor sign permanently on display in aisle 3.

John Wayne Bobbitt can remember exactly i reckon 

we all think we would know what to do but it does seem to be more common than i thought. I watched a documentary on channel 4 a few weeks ago about a similar case of a woman abusing her Husband and even involved their kids in it. 

The worst part of the documentary was seeing what a broken man he had become. He ended up having to put hidden cameras up to prove what she was doing. Their kids must be traumatised and will take years for them to get over what they witnessed.

Norpig wrote:we all think we would know what to do but it does seem to be more common than i thought. I watched a documentary on channel 4 a few weeks ago about a similar case of a woman abusing her Husband and even involved their kids in it. 

The worst part of the documentary was seeing what a broken man he had become. He ended up having to put hidden cameras up to prove what she was doing. Their kids must be traumatised and will take years for them to get over what they witnessed.

This sounds familiar. I think it was in the paper a good while back with the blokes wife being quite well up in a company and used to come home and perhaps take the work stress out on him or perhaps she enjoyed being the dominating type.

He used to be sat on the sofa minding his own business (if you will) and she would just start lashing out at him for no reason etc.

I think she broke his arm at one time from what I remember?

I knew very early, on a first date in my teens.
It was the Halle Orchestra Christmas concert at the Free Trade Hall.
A very glitzy do all round.
The boat was well and truly pushed out style wise. Low cut ball gown, split down the side to show a bit of leg, silver shoes, and a nice little shoulder purse to complete the look.
Anyway, she made me take it off. Said I looked like a tart.
Never went out with the cow again.

boltonbonce wrote:I knew very early, on a first date in my teens.
It was the Halle Orchestra Christmas concert at the Free Trade Hall.
A very glitzy do all round.
The boat was well and truly pushed out style wise. Low cut ball gown, split down the side to show a bit of leg, silver shoes, and a nice little shoulder purse to complete the look.
Anyway, she made me take it off. Said I looked like a tart.
Never went out with the cow again.