Daughter being bullied help?

My 16 year old daughter is being bullied at school, by her ex best friend and some others, which has really come to a head today, She has been receiving nasty text messages and also some sarcastic twitter comments, which quite clearly are meant for my daughter.

The big problem is, my Mrs is livid and she is due home from work very shortly and she has told my daughter that she is going to go around to her ex best friends house tonight and sort it out!

What should we do? I would prefer to involve the school, as surely it's their responsibility? 

Any help would be much appreciated!

Sorry to here that Culch, get the school involved, o tolerance on these matters these days.

Just had a look on one of the bullies twitter account. She has tweeted "omg what's your fucking problem" with 4 of those punch face symbols you have on an Iphone.

The other bully has tweeted the same punch in the face symbol as well.

To be honest Clutch feck it call the police, they will make the call for you.

If you phone the police they will be duty bound to go and have a quiet word with the bullies before the situation escalates. Better to start the ball rolling by getting in first by reporting it. If your Mrs goes round kicking off the bullies parents could report her to the police for harassment.

Let Old Bill sort it out. That's what they are paid for.

The Protection from Harassment Act was created to deal with stalkers but nowadays it is also used to deal with cyber bullies. If you can print off the offensive e-mails or tweets and show the police that your daughter is very concerned about the bullying they should take a statement from her. They then visit the offenders and give them a verbal warning under the harassment act. They are obliged to make a pocket note book entry which the offenders are obliged to sign to show that they have been warned.

The documentation is then stored and no further action is taken unless further incidents are carried out by the offenders. If they continue to harass then the police can arrest them and charge them.

The warning normally has the desired effect, especially where schoolgirls are concerned.

There's enough twitterers on here, so just put the bullys twitting address up.

Then Bolton Nuts can go mob handed on her twit account and scare the shite out of her.

Print them off before they retract them.

I've just managed to talk my Mrs out of going round to their house, thank God! We'll see what happens tomorrow at school.

My daughter is in her most important year at school right now, with her GCSE's being taken shortly. She sat on her own at lunch time and she didn't eat her lunch that my Mrs prepared for her as well.

At least my daughter has the sense to keep all of the texts and twitter comments if we need them.

You definitely need to contact the school. They should help. Whether or not you want to escalate this to the police depends on how bad it is and also how threatened your daughter feels.

Agree with xmiles, school is the first point if call if that is where it's happening, if nothing changes or gets worse the kids would more than likely get suspended/excluded.  Schools know how to deal with these things...

Did you mention the Twitter address of any of the offenders? We could arrange to have a suitcase sent round by the erstwhile Mich Caine... if it continues, we'll send AD for a visit - that should take care of that!

Sorry to hear your trouble mr culcheth. I hope your daughter is feeling better soon. I tend to agree with the idea of school being involved first, only if your daughter is happy to go that route though.

Don't expect too much assistance from the education authorities. They will probably have a quiet word with the bullies but they will peddle out the excuse that they have no control over their pupil's use of social media sites like Facepoop and Twatter.

Reebok Trotter wrote:Don't expect too much assistance from the education authorities. They will probably have a quiet word with the bullies but they will peddle out the excuse that they have no control over their pupil's use of social media sites like Facepoop and Twatter.

I agree, good luck Culcheth hope you get it sorted pretty swiftly and the little twats pack it in!

Go to any open evening of any school in the country. They all say they're a "zero tolerance on bullying" school. It's utterly meaningless.

There was a great episode of Educating Yorkshire (a documentary set in a zero tolerance on bullying school) a few months ago where one utter slag had been taunting this lad for weeks before he decked her one day. The only person punished there was him.

Schools are just interested in doing everything by the book and getting paid for it at the end of the week. That said, I'm not sure who else there is to involve that could do anything useful.

Reebok Trotter wrote:If you phone the police they will be duty bound to go and have a quiet word with the bullies before the situation escalates. Better to start the ball rolling by getting in first by reporting it. If your Mrs goes round kicking off the bullies parents could report her to the police for harassment.

Let Old Bill sort it out. That's what they are paid for.

 Thing is i alway's work on the the idea that you fight fire with fire, its the only thing that's ever worked in my life, girls are more evil than boys but they are more easy to intimidate.If it was my daughter i'd pay some people to sort them, going to the school or parents could make it worse for you.

I despise bullies. Hope your daughter is ok culceth! She'll have the last laugh

Me and the Mrs had a really long chat with our daughter before, mainly to reassure her and she seems much better. I told my daughter to block the two fat bitches text and twitter messages, which she has done and she is far more relaxed now, as the text messages were really upsetting her.

My daughter had the common sense to screen shoot all of the messages that she had received and she swears that she hasn't sent anything malicious in response, which I know she won't have.

I think a lot of what has gone on is purely down to jealousy, as my daughter is doing well at school, she has been accepted at Winstanley college, providing she gets her grades, which I think she will. She is also extremely pretty, I'm not just saying that as her father either, she has been approached by a top modelling agency and she has everything going for her, except her two ex friends who have turned out to be horrible, manipulative little bitches!

Sorry to hear about these complete bitches Culcheth. Girls are no better than lads in terms of bullying.

All the best to your daughter in the future.