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Happy to wade in with another sweeping generalisation if it helps. IMO 15 year olds know enough to be dangerous and are generally desperate to claim their own identity, usually without the accompanying responsibility. During this completely natural process they invariably make mistakes that they'll wonder about in later years but they have the right to do that and it's all part of the learning process. We are all irrational anyway. How many of us have gone through life still loving our first loves, still hanging with the group of friends we once thought were the coolest thing since sliced bread and the best people the world has ever produced, still liking the bands and clothes that we once thought would never be bettered? We change and I'm confident that this girl will one day realise that she made a bad move.
The guy on the other hand should know better. Even if they are genuinely in love and in the best possible case secenario he should surely have been aware that running away with her would:
- freak out her family and potentially damage her relationship with them
- that their obvious disparity in age would get the attention of the public and the media
- that it was in breach of UK law
None of these things were in the interest of the girl, let alone his own wife. If they were genuinely in love he should have manned up about it, sorted things out with his missus and at least got the girl to contact her family to reassure them and tried to find a way to make it work, even if that meant waiting for a year or so. There were clearly issues to be sorted out, truths to be faced up to and responsibilities to be taken but he ran away from them. He is therefore a cowardly manipulator IMO.
The guy on the other hand should know better. Even if they are genuinely in love and in the best possible case secenario he should surely have been aware that running away with her would:
- freak out her family and potentially damage her relationship with them
- that their obvious disparity in age would get the attention of the public and the media
- that it was in breach of UK law
None of these things were in the interest of the girl, let alone his own wife. If they were genuinely in love he should have manned up about it, sorted things out with his missus and at least got the girl to contact her family to reassure them and tried to find a way to make it work, even if that meant waiting for a year or so. There were clearly issues to be sorted out, truths to be faced up to and responsibilities to be taken but he ran away from them. He is therefore a cowardly manipulator IMO.
and I'm married - possibly the most irrational moment of my life!
