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not-so-plain-jayne wrote:wanderlust wrote:I've had two relationships with women who were considerably younger each lasting 5 or 6 years and neither ended well because of the children thing. The first I fell madly in love with and for 6 years we were idyllically happy even though she was only 4 years older than my eldest son. It didn't seem to matter as she had a mature personality and everyone was cool about it. In the end the clock was ticking for her and I didn't want more kids and had the snip and from there it wasn't long before we decided to call it a day. I was gutted really, but she's happy now and is the mother of two girls and that's good enough for me, even though I still occasionally think it might have worked out differently.
The second was on the rebound from the first. She is only 16 years younger than me and she was/is a wonderful woman. One of the important things for me was that she said from the outset that she didn't want kids, but it was pretty obvious that she became increasingly nesty as she got into her 30s. No fault of hers, but I'd been there before so eventually I dumped her - which was harsh, but I felt I had to do it. She was pregnant within 2 months!
After that I ended up marrying again - my wife is only 4 years younger than me.
I think the only thing that is potentially problematic with dating someone considerably younger is that people of roughly the same age can go through the changes in perception that life brings much more easily than two people who are experiencing different age-related pressures. Ultimately it all comes down to the personalities involved.
that's a great answer wanderlust, thank you. when i first meet someone i'm not thinking marriage and babies but i guess if i date this fella you have to take those things into consideration because he may want them much sooner than I do.
It comes to everyone sooner or later.
Depends what you want. If you don't go into it with the intention of having a serious relationship that's fine. But I've been with women "just for fun" but the more fun it was the more serious it became apart from the one night stands.
That said, at your age you may as well check it out. He's more likely to have mucho disposable income to lavish gifts on you and could be an experienced lover - not that I'm suggesting you get all mercenary about it - but if you can't have fun at 23 you're probably dead.