bullying at work

not-so-plain-jayne wrote:i'm halfway through training and they pay for me to go to college at night. i could leave but i'd have to pay back the fees and find another job exactly the same. not easy.

Oh I see. Then pay Whittam a small fee to wait outside your work and sort this Kerry out.

Bolton Hater wrote:yeah, are you fit Jane?

I can assure you, shes a very bonny lass

Reebok_Rebel wrote:

I can assure you, shes a very bonny lass

How would you know?

Natasha Whittam wrote:

Reebok_Rebel wrote:

I can assure you, shes a very bonny lass

How would you know?

Im simply guessing...

RR makes some good points if you were going straight to a complaints procedure, but in a small business corporate protocol and employment legislation are not always followed.
I'd do this:
Start looking for another job immediately, but don't tell anyone and keep it a secret. The best time to look for a job is when you're already employed. Continue at work as per usual for the time being.
Document everything. Anything that evidences what you're claiming (emails etc) Save it regularly to a datapen and keep a copy at home away from the office computer system. Don't bitch about this woman at any time and certainly don't leave anything on your computer that could be used against you. Squeaky clean.
Behave impeccably. Don't give anyone any excuses to give you a hard time.
Try to be nice to everyone including Kerry but at the same time, don't get hung up on what they say or appear to think, even if they are being a complete knob. Try to build a rapport with the boss so that when you're ready to talk to him he will give you a fair hearing. If you currently don't speak to him, just smile and be pleasant and helpful whenever possible.
When you have all your ducks in a row, try to find a time to speak to the boss (or HR person if there is one) - ask for "help with a problem of a sensitive nature"
Explain what you think the problem is in an objective and calm manner, demonstrating that you have made every effort to work around the issue but feel that you need his help to resolve it. Don't go over the top, but have your evidence ready just in case what you are saying is challenged. Remain calm at all times.
Be completely honest and ask for help.
If you do these things and nothing changes, you are already lining up another job. And if they try to sack you for complaining you can sue their butt as you'll have all the evidence a tribunal will need for a constructive dismissal case.

not-so-plain-jayne wrote:

Angry Dad wrote:Sounds like she could be jealous of you for some reason are you hotter than her? any chance you can win her over maybe for the sake of your job.

who am i to say how good looking i am, but other people have mentioned something along those lines. apparently i am number 1 on the top 5 office totty list.

Hipster_Nebula wrote:

who am i to say how good looking i am, but other people have mentioned something along those lines. apparently i am number 1 on the top 5 office totty list.

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Are you on the male totty list at your place Hipster?

Maybe she's into girls' if you are a babe feel her out and tease her get control of her that way then trick her and get her for sexual harassment,yeah I like that one.

Angry Dad wrote:Maybe she's into girls' if you are a babe feel her out and tease her get control of her that way then trick her and get her for sexual harassment,yeah I like that one.

I bet you do, pervert.

If you got the tools use them.

Bolton Hater wrote:yeah, are you fit Jane?

Too skinny for you and no relation. Surprised she'd be your cup of tea BH!

I'd ask her out for a night out, get her smashed on Es then she'll love you forever.

wanderlust wrote:RR makes some good points if you were going straight to a complaints procedure, but in a small business corporate protocol and employment legislation are not always followed.
I'd do this:
Start looking for another job immediately, but don't tell anyone and keep it a secret. The best time to look for a job is when you're already employed. Continue at work as per usual for the time being.
Document everything. Anything that evidences what you're claiming (emails etc) Save it regularly to a datapen and keep a copy at home away from the office computer system. Don't bitch about this woman at any time and certainly don't leave anything on your computer that could be used against you. Squeaky clean.
Behave impeccably. Don't give anyone any excuses to give you a hard time.
Try to be nice to everyone including Kerry but at the same time, don't get hung up on what they say or appear to think, even if they are being a complete knob. Try to build a rapport with the boss so that when you're ready to talk to him he will give you a fair hearing. If you currently don't speak to him, just smile and be pleasant and helpful whenever possible.
When you have all your ducks in a row, try to find a time to speak to the boss (or HR person if there is one) - ask for "help with a problem of a sensitive nature"
Explain what you think the problem is in an objective and calm manner, demonstrating that you have made every effort to work around the issue but feel that you need his help to resolve it. Don't go over the top, but have your evidence ready just in case what you are saying is challenged. Remain calm at all times.
Be completely honest and ask for help.
If you do these things and nothing changes, you are already lining up another job. And if they try to sack you for complaining you can sue their butt as you'll have all the evidence a tribunal will need for a constructive dismissal case.

thank you for your proper answer wanderlust, i'm going to take your advice.

not-so-plain-jayne wrote:

wanderlust wrote:RR makes some good points if you were going straight to a complaints procedure, but in a small business corporate protocol and employment legislation are not always followed.
I'd do this:
Start looking for another job immediately, but don't tell anyone and keep it a secret. The best time to look for a job is when you're already employed. Continue at work as per usual for the time being.
Document everything. Anything that evidences what you're claiming (emails etc) Save it regularly to a datapen and keep a copy at home away from the office computer system. Don't bitch about this woman at any time and certainly don't leave anything on your computer that could be used against you. Squeaky clean.
Behave impeccably. Don't give anyone any excuses to give you a hard time.
Try to be nice to everyone including Kerry but at the same time, don't get hung up on what they say or appear to think, even if they are being a complete knob. Try to build a rapport with the boss so that when you're ready to talk to him he will give you a fair hearing. If you currently don't speak to him, just smile and be pleasant and helpful whenever possible.
When you have all your ducks in a row, try to find a time to speak to the boss (or HR person if there is one) - ask for "help with a problem of a sensitive nature"
Explain what you think the problem is in an objective and calm manner, demonstrating that you have made every effort to work around the issue but feel that you need his help to resolve it. Don't go over the top, but have your evidence ready just in case what you are saying is challenged. Remain calm at all times.
Be completely honest and ask for help.
If you do these things and nothing changes, you are already lining up another job. And if they try to sack you for complaining you can sue their butt as you'll have all the evidence a tribunal will need for a constructive dismissal case.

thank you for your proper answer wanderlust, i'm going to take your advice.

Your welcome.

Or as they say in English...you're welcome Jayne - and good luck. Don't let the bastards grind you down.

not-so-plain-jayne wrote:thank you for your proper answer wanderlust, i'm going to take your advice.

Where is my thanks? I'm not happy.

Boggersbelief wrote:

not-so-plain-jayne wrote:thank you for your proper answer wanderlust, i'm going to take your advice.

Where is my thanks? I'm not happy.

She may be young but the woman clearly recognises wisdom when she sees it.

Bolton Hater wrote:Call the cops and tell them he got his knob out while you were photocopying and made you suck it. You probably do this willingly but they don't know that.

Please stop posting your sick fantasies on here.

Boggersbelief wrote:

not-so-plain-jayne wrote:thank you for your proper answer wanderlust, i'm going to take your advice.

Where is my thanks? I'm not happy.

Same, I thought my solution was a belter

sometimes, only physical violence does the job